Triumph is always said to be the pinnacle of all your efforts to reach a given goal. It appears to be measured only in terms of concrete and visible achievements. Seldom are the daily triumphs we all achieve in our routine lives ever noticed by ourselves, leave alone the world at large. We overcome fear, that is triumph. We overcome the urge to have that extra glass, that is triumph. We resist the urge to be rude, that is triumph. We control our anger in the roads at donkeys who drive like donkeys, that is triumph. These daily battles are the real arena of our triumphs.
This is so true. I have already written about 250 pages of a planned book. I have since left it to rest for while but that while has gradually turned out be three years. Mental laziness is a dangerous animal which creeps into you and holds on so tight that you will not realise it until some one like this good person comes along and shocks you into action. You are right. I am going to go back to it and not allow myself to be sabotaged by myself.
Euny Hong suggests keeping your big goals to yourself.
The Biblical Revelations are attempts at disclosing the undiscloseable because the entire purpose is to hide the message behind a screen until you are qualified to be able to discern the revelation when you suddenly are able to see the information. In secular life the urge to discover secrets is dramatic. You just need to know but if you are incapable of handling the revelation, you might suffer consequences in respect of which you may not have desired. Thus revelations are not easy to handle. Ask only if you can live with it. Sometimes you are better of without knowing some truths. A revelation can be a nasty animal.
One of the most exasperating experience is asking your lawyer what are the chances of your case succeeding. Extracting your tooth will be relatively easier when compared to getting a straight response to this question. The perambulations can vary from it depends on which judge is going to preside, how you perform in court, what facts the other side is going to produce, how the submissions will impress, how the jury (in a jury trial) will react. These can be true factors in determining the outcome of a case but the outcome of a case can surely vary from certainty ( of the case being totally winnable) to fifty fifty to slim. But rare indeed is the brave lawyer who is prepared to take a stand on on any one of these outcomes. Most lawyers will not agree with this opinion but ask any layman of their experience of a lawyer and see for yourself.
If after your first visit you are invited for a second round, your anxiety levels reach a notch higher because you are about to discover facts about yourself which you have hitherto not known. Lo and behold, after about an hour of further discussion, you are gently advised that there are broad indications that you need further sessions to enable the good listener to decide whether you have a clinical problem or not. This may well be a a case of the psychologist making a genuine effort to determine if there is truly a need for psycho analysis and treatment. If that is the case then there is no cause for concern. The problem arises when all is truly well with you but are asked to keep going back for further consultation only to be told after several visits (and paying consultations fees on each visit) that you are perfectly alright. I wonder if a second opinion establishes that these several visits were totally unnecessary, there might be a case for law suit.
When you walk into a psychologist’s clinic and have your natter about the issues bothering you, the psychologist is most unlikely to immediately announce that there is nothing psychologically problematic with you. Instead he will ask you (in all likelihood) to come back for second visit so as to enable him to consider your facts more thoroughly both on the facts and clinically (with reference to authorities). This is not unusual among psychologists only – most professionals tend to take this line because of the innate need to self perpetuate themselves.
There are ten matters that lawyers are unlikely to tell you. This is the first one of them: when you first walk into a lawyer’s office to request for his representation, the foremost issue in your mind is the cost that you are likely to incur. Nine out of ten you are most unlikely to be given a clear cut figure. Not because the lawyer wants to be evasive but because he will not know at that stage the full extent of what he is taking on. In that window between your anxiety and his inability to provide a precise quote lies the opportunity for the lawyer to exploit and for you to be exasperated as the matter evolve and develops. The trick is to indicate to the lawyer to take his time, study your case and to provide a fairly accurate estimate of the cost.